“Sam’s book is a healing balm for cranks, misfits and malcontents who are so full of self they scarcely see, let alone celebrate, the simple beauties of imperfect virtue in others. Or to say it differently: I need this book.”
— John Piper, from the Forward to the book Practicing Affirmation.
I just finished reading Practicing Affirmation by author / pastor Sam Crabtree. My borrowed library copy is almost due and going back into circulation, but I plan to exchange it for my own purchased copy.
I want to remember this book. More importantly, I want to practice what I learned. Here are some thoughts that grabbed me:
—Think about how often we correct / complain / criticize. This causes “drag” on a relationship, especially because corrections / complaints and criticisms tend to outweigh affirmations.
“It takes many affirmations to overcome the impact of a criticism, because criticisms are heavier and sting more.”
–Affirming others acts like a key, with the potential to unlock relationships.
“Many people are puzzled as to why their relationships seem stuck and uncooperative, yet they are not putting the key in the ignition. It’s not too late to use the key.”
–Affirmations should be consistent in a relationship.
–Affirmations should be God-centered. Focus on character, not outward appearance. Look for God’s character seen in people of all beliefs and backgrounds. Commend sincerely without flattery.
“In doing so, we’re pointing to something very valuable, and we’re saying, “I see it in you! I value it… and the God who is the source of it!”
–When we are affirmed, it makes us happy. But the affirmation giver gains a mysterious joy as well.
–Affirmations are for everyone and everywhere. Use them in the workplace. At home. Use them in a “stuck” relationship. Give them to your children. Give them to your spouse. Give them undeserved…and give generously.
–One of my favorite parts of the book was chapter 9, where it listed 100 Affirmation Ideas for Those who Feel Stuck.
“When our mouths are empty of praise for others, it is probably because our hearts are full of love for self.” – John Piper
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