My son is looking forward to winter ( 😲 ) and he wanted to find out when the nearest ski hill opens. He scrolled and browsed, and started laughing out loud. Turns out he was reading customer reviews from last year. One said:
“…lines were too long and too many reserved spots at chalet tables. Mentioned this to staff but they didn’t care; they already had our money.”
It’s never funny when we are the ones complaining. And, there is definitely a time to speak up and bring grievances effectively to the right people.
But if we could take a step back and see ourselves, our knee-jerk complaints can sound rather whiny.
In our griping, we often:
- Assign wicked and evil motives to those who have wronged us in some way
- Build up small slights into mountain-sized offenses
Looking inward, I see at least one thing about which I have complained over the weekend.
I complained in thought and I complained twice to friends yesterday at church.
(But…I had a smile on my face and did it somewhat creatively so that perhaps it didn’t seem like I was grumbling?)
But I was.
People complain collectively about everything, from the weather to politics to jobs to whatever. When we make a habit of griping at home, our children catch the wave and join in.
Fussing, grumbling, and complaining are things we are trying to discourage here at home.
Instead, we are hoping that words like “thank you” become an almost involuntary response. We would like to foster a daily regimen of gratefulness and promote an anti-moan-&-groan manifesto.
But how can that happen if Mama is (overtly or covertly) whining or moping about circumstances?
Some clear reminders for me today in God’s Word:
- Do all things without grumbling or disputing. Philippians 2:14
- Do not grumble against one another, brothers, so that you may not be judged; behold, the Judge is standing at the door. James 5:9
- Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29
Trying this week to advance a “no complain” campaign. Starting with the Mama in the mirror.