“You know you’ve read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend.”
Paul Sweeney
My goal was to read 50 books in 2023, but I came up a little short. Surprisingly, before 2023, I had never read any Agatha Christie mysteries, and it was a happy introduction. Also, it was fun to read three books together with my teenage homeschoolers: The Hobbit, The Casebook of Sherlock Holmes, and The Screwtape Letters.
My 2023 Books
This little summary is for my own memory, as well as for any who might be interested:
Fever 1793 by Laurie Halse Anderson – Fascinating Y/A historical fiction book about Philadelphia’s 1793 yellow fever epidemic.
The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien – I had never read this classic book until I read it with my homeschoolers this year. After finishing, my daughter invited us to watch the movies at her place.
The ABC Murders by Agatha Christie– Now acquainted with Hercule Poirot, I will never look back.
The 10 Commandments of Progressive Christianity by Michael J. Kruger- A short, insightful book, recommended by our pastor.
Breaking Stalin’s Nose by Eugene Yelchin- A moving childrens’ book about a young student living during Stalin’s rule.
Papa is a Poet by Natalie S. Bober – A lovely book written from the perspective of one of Robert Frost’s children.
Stone Stoup – A classic folktale, retold and winsomely illustrated by Marcia Brown. This story is an old favorite of mine.
Death on the Nile by Agatha Christie – I love a story with a twist at the end. Another Hercule Poirot winner.
Fiber Fueled by Will Bulsiewicz – I don’t often choose foodie / health books, but I was on a mission to finish this one before my husband, who is a fan of such knowledge. I listened to this while walking (the perfect health combo) and found it pretty interesting.
My Man Jeeves by P.G. Wodehouse – An extremely funny book, written in the early 20th century, about a butler who covertly runs the household in style.
The White Mountains by John Christopher – The first book in an excellent Y/A science fiction trilogy. I suggested it to one of my reluctant teenagers, who ended up gobbling up the entire trilogy.
The Pool of Fire – The second book in the trilogy.
The City of Gold and Lead – The final book in the trilogy.
The Big Four – another Agatha Christie book, and for some reason, this was not memorable.
Gentle and Lowly: The Heart of Christ for Sinners and Sufferers by Dane C. Ortlund- After 30+ years of walking with Christ, I learned some new, deep, and tender insights about the love of God through this book. I look forward to re-reading this.
Journey to the Center of the Earth by Jules Verne – Having seen a few versions of the movie, I finally read the book.
The Libyan Diversion by Joel C. Rosenberg – the 5th (and final?) installment of the Marcus Ryker novels, Christian global political thrillers that are always gripping.
Musical Tables: Poems by Billy Collins – These poems made me laugh and cry as I was weeding the garden on a hot summer day.
Running Out of Time by Margaret Peterson Haddix – An exciting book for middle grades, and a fun re-read for me.
Whale Day: And Other Poems by Billy Collins – Another excellent poetry book by the former U.S. poet laureate.
Double Indemnity and
Trial and Error by Robert Whitlow – I was hoping to have found a new cache of Christian mysteries, but these were a bit disappointing. It’s unfair to compare anyone to Agatha Christie, I guess.
Snow and Rose by Emily Winfield Martin – While snooping around on Goodreads, I noticed that my daughter was reading this — so I thought I would join her. It’s a charming variation of the fairy tale Snow White and Rose Red.
Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier – I adored this book, and couldn’t help remembering how my mom had unsuccessfully recommended it to me when I was a teenager. So glad I finally read it. Beautifully written, Rebecca is much more than a highly suspenseful mystery.
Murder on the Orient Express by Agatha Christie – I am beginning to feel like Papa Poirot is an old friend.
Watership Down by Richard Adams – This is a lovely book about characters who struggle, grow, face danger, and bond together after fleeing their home. The characters happen to be rabbits, but it’s somehow more than an animal book…
True Grit by Charles Portis – Another book that I shunned during my teenage years — it was assigned in 7th grade American history, but I browsed through it halfheartedly back then. I absolutely love this book about a brave, spunky, and faith-filled teenage girl who hires a rough U.S. Marshal to find her father’s murderer.
The Casebook of Sherlock Holmes by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle – Read together as a homeschool assignment, this book gave us some new spelling and vocabulary words. Although assigned books (and spelling work) can ruin the fun of reading, I’m happy to say that both of my youngest students are now Sherlock Holmes fans.
At Bertram’s Hotel by Agatha Christie – I read an abridged version of this book, and maybe that’s why it wasn’t a top favorite of mine.
The Last Jihad by Joel C. Rosenberg – The first of the Christian / political thriller novels featuring Jon Bennett. A great re-read.
Long Walk Home by DiAnn Mills – Although made interesting and educational with its African setting, this was another Christian mystery that fell flat for me.
4:50 From Paddington by Agatha Christie – Miss Marple was an instant favorite, and this book was too.
A Caribbean Mystery and Nemesis by Agatha Christie – I had forgotten to add Nemesis to my list, so I technically read 49 books instead of 48. I read this duo out of order by reading Nemesis first. But, it really didn’t matter. I enjoyed these mysteries featuring the indomitable Miss Jane Marple.
Crispin: The End of Time by Avi – a happy re-read, stumbled upon when I was searching for something else. I love the Crispin series, and this is the final one of the trilogy.
The Snow Child by Eowyn Ivey was recommended to me by my daughter, and it kept me engaged and guessing until the very end. The setting is Alaska during the early 20th century. Beautifully written.
The Mystery of the Blue Train by Agatha Christie is one I don’t recall very well, but as usual, I probably didn’t guess the culprit until the very end.
The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis – Read by myself and my homeschooled teenage sons, the book is a series of “letters” written from one senior demon to his underling nephew, who is trying to lure his target away from God. Apparently, it was one of the author’s least favorite books to write, but it is quite insightful. When we finished, I assigned a paper to be written from the perspective of one senior angel to his underling angel. Although there was some protest about this writing assignment, both students did an amazing job.
In Grandma’s Attic by Arleta Richardson – the first book in an old favorite series, and fun to find on audio.
The Jerusalem Assassin by Joel C. Rosenberg was a re-read of one of my favorite Marcus Ryker novels.
The Mysterious Affair at Styles by Agatha Christie
and The Mysterious Affair at Styles again — read twice during the year, because I forgot the details, and sadly, even the culprit :0. Hercule Poirot’s first mystery.
Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud – I have read parts of the classic book “Boundaries” but this was specifically tailored for married people. Excellent, practical, and highly recommended.
Three Blind Mice by Agatha Christie was a novella with a suprising end that I found free on the Libby app.
Metamorphosis by Franz Kafka is apparently a classic. On the surface, it’s about a man who wakes up one day as a cockroach. I’m sure there is more existential meaning to it than I grasped, but it was darkly entertaining as an audiobook narrated by Benedict Cumberbatch.
The Brave Tin Soldier and Other Tales by Hans Christian Andersen. I admit that as I was trying hard to reach my goal of 50 books, I slipped in some short ones here at the end. But I was fun to get a refresh on a few classic fairy tales.
The Murder of Roger Ackroyd by Agatha Christie, and
The Murder of Roger Ackroyd again. Featuring Hercule Poirot, this is my favorite Agatha Christie book so far. After reading it once early in the year, the ending took me so by surprise, that I wanted to read it again to catch any missed details.
Watership Down: the Graphic Novel, adapted by James Sturm and illustrated by Joe Sutphin. This was a Christmas gift, given by my daughter who knows I love the original by Richard Adams. What lovely illustrations for a story I know well by now.
I do all my reading these days via audiobook, and usually while walking.
I can envision where I was walking when the new Mrs. DeWinter glided down the stairs for the fancy dress ball (Rebecca) or when Mattie Ross was bit by a rattlesnake (True Grit). Sophia introduced me to the poetry of Billy Collins, and I started with Aimless Love and Whale Day; they made me laugh out loud while planting and weeding the garden.
I inhaled the latest title in Joel C. Rosenberg’s Marcus Ryker series: The Libyan Diversion, and having conquered most of the Sherlock Holmes books, I have now finished eight Agatha Christie mysteries. It was refreshing to read the enchanted fairy-tale-twist Snow and Rose; I think I liked it as much as my youngest daughter did.
Some day you will be old enough to start reading fairy tales again.
C.S. Lewis
I walked miles in circles around our property when I was reading Rebecca, because I couldn’t pull myself away. What beautiful descriptions of gardens and scenery and rooms and mansions, but also a journey into a mind of wrong assumptions and insecurities that seems all too familiar.
Watership Down…what can I say? One can only push a book on family and friends so much. How can a book about rabbits be so good that you’d read it two Augusts in a row? Well, it just is that good and I cannot explain why. Read the reviews and consider reading it for yourself; the audio version is distinctively wonderful.
I can’t imagine a man really enjoying a book and reading it only once.
C.S. Lewis
But you cannot force someone to like a book. Mrs. Skibbe assigned True Grit to us in 7th grade American History class and I hardly glanced at it. I wish I could tell her now how much I enjoyed that book 40+ years later.
My cousin Tommy gave me the The Tripod Trilogy by John Christopher when I was a teenager and not particularly interested in science fiction — especially when the main character was a boy. However, these three books came to be some of my favorites. I forgot about them until recently, when I was searching for books for my youngest sons, aged 14 and 15. They gobbled up the series, and so did I again — absorbing different things as an adult reader. Books are magical that way.
No book is really worth reading at the age of ten which is not equally – and often far more – worth reading at the age of fifty and beyond.
C.S. Lewis
I am in a delicious rut of fiction-reading. But, the Christian book Gentle and Lowly stopped me in my tracks — I loved it and cried through it, having my eyes opened in a fresh way to the mysterious, unexplainable, unearned, immeasurable love of God. It’s one to read over and over again.
2023 has its own Wikipedia page, and here are some of the things included on the global calendar this year:
Luxembourg, Thailand, Turkey, Sudan, Guatemala and at least ten other countries will hold their national elections this year.
King Charles will be crowned King of England in May.
India is projected to surpass China to become the world’s most populous country.
In my small part of the globe, who knows what the year may hold? But so far in 2023, I have already sampled two new sports: pickleball and snowshoeing.
This is surprising, since I am not a person who inserts athletics into her bio. I favor reading, sewing, audiobooks, and gentle walks.
Pickleball
Since practically everyone in my family is playing pickleball, I wanted to try it — and it is FUN! I took a class on January 2nd, and since then, I have been thinking of ways to play inexpensively at an indoor court. During a cold Minnesota winter, indoor court time is precious, and you must share with others. It’s unusual to reserve an indoor court just for yourself and a friend – it’s pickleball courtesy to let another pair join you.
Before I took the class, my husband gave me a quick tutorial session, and we volleyed with two other pickleballers.
We played for 1.5 hours.
Since my body wasn’t used to this (I haven’t used tennis muscles since the 20th century), I left the court with a pulled hamstring.
It didn’t seem right to injure myself in a sport that seems designed for and enjoyed by so many senior citizens. But the muscle is healing, and I will keep trying to find ways to play with other beginners like me.
Snowshoes
Early in January 2023, a foot of snow landed on us here in Minnesota. This made driving difficult, my teenage boys busy, and our tractor a necessity for blowing snow off our long rural driveway.
This beautiful, white, deep snowy landscape was the perfect backdrop to try a snowshoeing class, hosted by the local park system. My two youngest boys and I were glad for a balmy 29 degree day yesterday, as we strapped on our rented snowshoes and followed the leader up the woodsy hill.
Snowshoes have a sharp-toothed metal piece that allows your foot to grip slippery surfaces, and the snowshoe’s width spreads out your weight, so you don’t sink down into deep snow.
Besides learning about how to navigate trails using these simple contraptions, we also learned that you shouldn’t eat blue snow. When you see this, it means that rabbits or deer have eaten buckthorn, which turns their urine a lovely shade of blue.
Don’t eat blue snow.
New Year Thoughts
What will 2023 hold for each one of us?
Colorful experiences?
Strained muscles?
New life seasons?
Deeper insights?
Growth? Learning?
Overcoming? Letting Go?
Some of these don’t seem to arrive without stretching, sweat, or struggle.
Verses I am studying from the book of James remind me that we all go through trials, but trials are not the end of the story. If we let God do His work in us, trials can refine and improve us (but nobody said it was easy.)
Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.
James 1:2-4 MSG
May 2023 be your best year yet.
The object of a New Year is not that we should have a new year. It is that we should have a new soul and a new nose; new feet, a new backbone, new ears, and new eyes. Unless a particular man made New Year resolutions, he would make no resolutions. Unless a man starts afresh about things, he will certainly do nothing effective. ~Gilbert K. Chesterton
Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better person. ~Benjamin Franklin
Life is short. Stay awake for it. ~ Caribou Coffee
Being over 50, my ears have heard many words. Some words I wish I could recall. Some words I would like to forget. But there are three things people once said to me that I believe I will remember forever.
1. “You will always have beauty in your life.”
I took biology my sophomore year at Edina High School. Mr. Ehlert was my teacher: a quirky older man who sported bow ties, tweed jackets, and a grizzled beard. He would lecture every day, and our task was to take attentive notes in our all-important notebooks. Our grade depended heavily on these notebooks, which we offered for grading every few weeks.
It was — and is still — my habit to doodle in notebooks, so mine was filled alternately with words, pictures and word-pictures. I might have written out the process of metamorphosis in words, with arrows, or doodled a whimsical caterpillar~butterfly combo as my pencil flew across the pages.
We handed in our notebooks one Friday and got them back the next week. In my notebook, he made comments and asked occasional questions. He did not scowl at my doodling — instead, he approvingly referred to my artsy note- taking when he wrote:
“You will always have beauty in your life.”
I have never forgotten that little comment — the memory of it has grown over the years and made me feel richer.
2. “You smell like Jesus, Lisa.”
I remember the day I walked to my p.o. box at college, opened it and found a simple note, that began with a Bible passage:
“But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumph in Christ, and through us reveals the fragrance of the knowledge of Him in every place. For we are a fragrance of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing.”
You smell like Jesus, Lisa!
I looked around the mailroom. Who had sent me this encouraging, anonymous message? Who thinks I *smell* like Jesus?!
Looking back, this period of my life was sometimes more selfish and stinky than spiritually fragrant! Although the message could have been the result of someone’s Bible class assignment, or sent in bulk to several people, my spirit soared and I have pondered over and cherished this verse ever since. It’s also good to remember that if we ever eke out a Jesus fragrance, it is only because we have His power to do it. The rest of the verse says: “And who is adequate for these things?” 2 Corinthians 2:16.
3. “You never complain!”
Betsy was a beautiful southern lady, twenty years my senior. She hosted a small group at her home, simply to build God-focused encouragement into the lives of women.
I remember the time she looked me in the eye and told me:
“Ly-suh…I never hear you complain! You never complain, do you?”
Betsy didn’t live with me, and my husband certainly could have told her the real truth, but as I reflect on her words, I realize that the moment she said that, she pronounced upon me something to live up to; something like a prophecy:
I am someone who doesn’t complain. I will be someone who doesn’t complain.
Her words have diffused power over the years, and have caused me to hold my tongue or think of my blessings instead of my lack. I only hope that I will be a “Betsy” to others who need one throughout their journey.
This is Betsy.
Conclusion
The value of looking back at these three comments is to cause me to be inspired to do the same for others. Our words are powerful. These three people probably had no idea of the impact of their short messages. They didn’t preach a sermon at me, or lecture, or use fancy words; but the effort they took to speak something kind ended up being as valuable to me as gold.
My mom always told me things like, “Put yourself in their shoes.” She helped me see value in people that others would ignore, and to reach out to them.
We hosted a family with eight children for a few weeks, because they didn’t have a place to stay. At the time, I just thought it was fun to have friends staying with us, but I didn’t think about the challenge it must have been for my parents.
Many of my mom’s friends had hard backgrounds or difficult life problems. People like Norma, Gwen and Sandy needed rides, or encouragement, or babysitters, or a perm, or they needed my mom to help them do a garage sale. We saw her reaching out and didn’t know that we were absorbing it.
Because of my mom’s influence, I went on to attract individuals all my life who had a unique story and special need for a friend.
My dad had a quote that he kept in his desk drawer, in the county budget office, on the 21st floor of the government center in Minneapolis:
If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.
Henry David Thoreau
My dad was kind and respectful in the way he talked to everyone — never talking down to people.
He gave people a chance. He sold our station wagon to a rough new kid who visited our youth group, allowing him to pay him in installments. After one or two payments, Wally Johnson had the car and my dad never saw him again. Once or twice my dad asked me, with a twinkle in his eye, but with no malice, “Do you ever see that Wally Johnson?”
I learned to create art.
My mom and dad were both creative — each in their own way. They liked to garden. Mom liked to make ethnic meals and crafts, like stained glass and decoupage. Dad worked with wood, making my dollhouse, inlaid parquet projects, furniture, climbing bears and many other toys.
My mom and dad encouraged me to use my talents. Whenever my mom needed a card, she would ask me to write calligraphy on it, and when my dad made something out of wood, he asked me to paint something on it. They treated my art like it was real art, and because of this, it became real art. They valued homemade things, from Dad’s handmade antique-turned-lamps all over the house, to my mom’s oil paintings, to our elementary school art projects that hung on the walls. To them, the best art was meaningful art, made by people they loved.
I learned to seek God.
They took us to church every week. They took us to camp and youth group and confirmation class and Bible studies and reminded us to read our devotions. My mom, Sara and I memorized James 1 together. Mom gave me many Christian books (which I sometimes read and sometimes didn’t.) She passed on her love for Corrie Ten Boom and Joni Eareckson Tada, and we gobbled up The Hiding Place and Joni’s autobiography. Mom loved the Psalms, Christian books and showed her love for God by serving her family, other people and also becoming involved in the growing pro-life efforts of the 1970’s and 1980’s.
Dad read his Bible, too, but never marked it up. (I get that from him.) He was in Bible studies, but I never heard him talk about them much. He was a quiet believer who acted like a Christian more than he talked about being one.
These are my parents, Tom and Caroline, with me, on my wedding day 06/23/1990. My mom made my wedding dress by combining three different patterns, according to the way I wanted my dress to look. (She made her own dress, too!) And, of course….my dad paid for the whole thing.
** This was the question I got today from Storyworth. Storyworth was a unique gift I received from my children on Mother’s Day. I receive a weekly email question to answer, and it usually brings forth a flood of memories. It’s a good exercise for any blogger and the plan is for all of these excerpts to turn into a lovely book, full of a lifetime of memories. This gift of a Storyworth book is the kind of thing that is perfect to give to an aging parent who might be in danger of losing her full brain functionality soon…hehe…probably why I received it 🙂
I hauled two busy boys along on a walk last Monday.
I warned them in my best tough-mom voice:
“We will walk ten miles today, boys. If you want your water bottle, carry it yourself. If you grumble and whine, you will not get a treat at the end. You can do this. We can do this. Let’s go build some muscle, guys!”
So we started off on a well known path.
They were trailing behind me.
Perfect time for me to whip out my earbuds and listen to my own audiobook.
Peace and quiet and lovely time to myself.
Nah, I will wait a little.
Then it got noisy.
That throaty, burping frog pond.
That airy, whistling, bird choir.
The rustles in the dry leaves of tiny who-knows-whats.
I couldn’t miss this.
Spring was waking up here.
The sun was melting my winter slouch.
My ears were being treated to a magnificent, miraculous, musical racket.
“Make a joyful noise,” said the psalmist.
Maybe this is what he meant.
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Psalm 100
Make a joyful noise to the Lord, all the earth!
Serve the Lord with gladness! Come into his presence with singing!
Know that the Lord, he is God! It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.
Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name!
For the Lord is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.
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This is my Father’s world: The birds their carols raise, The morning light, the lily white, Declare their Maker’s praise. This is my Father’s world: He shines in all that’s fair; In the rustling grass I hear Him pass, He speaks to me everywhere.
–from the 1901 hymn “This is My Father’s World” / lyrics by Maltbie D. Babcock
The beach is mesmerizing, and I could sit and watch the translucent-teal waves foam up on the sand all day long.
The way God fashioned waves is a repeating design pattern in life…but that is another blog post in itself.
Hypnotic waves on Miami Beach
Patterns & People
Last night, after the beach, after makeup removal, after getting cozy on my chair, Gino asked me to go for a walk around the colorful 4 x 4 block radius that we have called “home” this past week, where he has explored so much more than I.
How could I say no?
The air was balmy on our last night, as he led me through the upscale design district in my pre-bedtime state of appearance. We pranced right through a busy, outdoor bar where fancy people chatted in a courtyard. We weaved through a maze of colors and patterns, past designer shops with their sparsely-chic shelves and products. Everywhere we went, it smelled like someone wearing high-end perfume had just recently sailed through.
The abundant patterns and colors of the Miami Design District
Goodbye, Miami
All good things must come to an end.
Geoffrey Chaucer
When I start calling our place “home”…
When I start thinking about a Starbucks run every day at 3 p.m. just because it is within walking distance…
When I start swaying to Latino rap like it’s normal (all those Uber rides)…
Then I know it is time to hightail my homeschool-mom-self back to the Midwest.
“I will sing to the Lord, because He has dealt bountifully with me!” — Psalm 13:6
You might think it is strange for a mother to accompany her son to Miami for Spring Break, but here is how it happened…
My 20-year-old son Gino, who is taking online college classes, announced that he wanted to take a trip to Florida for spring break. After considering this, I mused aloud…
“It would be fun to go with you.
I wonder if I could swing it.
Would you hate that?”
Then, I let it rest.
A few days later, he said, “That would actually be nice — you going with me.”
“REALLY??!!!!?” I asked.
My husband agreed, home duties were delegated, and so it was planned. Gino reserved our flights and our spot at a spacious 2 bedroom Airbnb.
Day One
Arriving in Miami
We landed at 11:00 a.m. and basked in the 35 degree temperature change. We rode to our neighborhood, but the place wouldn’t be ready until 3:00 p.m. Gino stopped at Target and met me later, where I was lounging outside under the palm trees at a Starbucks. We hung out there before walking a few short blocks to our lovely little duplex in the Miami Design District.
First Meal, Best Meal
Since Gino and I had been up at 4:00 a.m. for our 6:30 flight, and we hadn’t eaten a solid meal all day, we decided to go to Versailles Restaurant, whose tagline is: “The World’s Most Famous Cuban Restaurant.” My Cuban-born husband and I discovered it when we went to Miami years ago, and its mouthwatering fare has haunted us ever since. Gino and I both ordered the Classic Cuban Sampler Platter. He polished it off, and I brought home half to enjoy tomorrow.
Day Two
Frank from Instacart left two grocery bags on our doorstep at 7:55 a.m. Gino went walking. I wrote out my own paraphrase of Psalm 9 and pasted it up on our refrigerator. The morning was leisurely, but our goal today was to hit the beach!
Uberimmediately
Gino takes care of (and pays for) our Uber rides and I am grateful, since I am quite unfamiliar with all that. Today, Gino asked, “Should I call for an UBER?”
“Sure.”
I started thinking about what to pack for a day at the beach, such as my:
walking shoes
snacks
sunscreen
lip balm
sunglasses
reading glasses
water bottles
earbuds
…and suddenly Gino announced:
“Okay, he will be here in one minute.”
Whaaaaa?!
I rushed to cram everything into my backpack, and bumbled awkwardly into the car as I simultaneously strapped on a mask. I looked at Gino, who was calmly sitting there with absolutely nothing in his hands.
“Do you have everything?” I asked.
“Yep.” he said.
Miami Beach
Once we arrived at Miami Beach it was breezy and around 70 degrees, but the sun peeked out from time to time, which gave stunning photos!
We split up when we reached the sand: I walked north and Gino walked south. I trudged happily six miles along the windy, lapping shore, searching in vain for large shells, but finding bouquets of sea vegetation and washed-up iridescent jellyfish.
After a few hours of walking, I headed west to the paved pathway that runs parallel to the beach. I found a bike rental kiosk and on a whim, rented a Citibike for two hours.
After 20 minutes, I met up with Gino on the path (where I shared some of my snacks with him, since he had come without any…hehe) and after an hour and a half, we met up again at the kiosk and planned to get a ride home.
Once again, I had barely untangled myself from the bike and gathered up my bulky wares, when Gino said, “Okay, our ride is almost here.”
Tweaking Expectations
After getting home, he showered off all of the sand, came out of the bathroom and said:
You know you can go places without me, right?
This struck me as a strange juxtaposition of the parent-child relationship, but maybe this is the emerging story of aging and could I possibly be on the brink already?
To reassure him that I was capable, I took off for a walk to Target when he wasn’t looking, and I forced myself to take extra time browsing so I wouldn’t get home too soon.
As I was heading home, whom do I see on the sidewalk, but my own son, giving me a minimalist smile in exchange for my motherly wave hello?
I got home and boldly drank strawberry kombucha out of a wine glass.
Day Three
Gino moves in and out of this place like a Ninja. One minute, I hear him exiting the bathroom, and the next minute I walk out to the living room and notice that his shoes and keys are gone.
So, to prevent myself from calling out his name just to see if he is still here (I think this annoys him) I have resorted to checking his Google location (a temporary, trip-only concession).
This morning, I told him that I’m going to stick around home and relax.
“I will probably walk over to Starbucks later this afternoon,” I said, hoping this would impress him.
But tomorrow — our last full day — I definitely want to go back to THE BEACH!
I live with 4.75 teenagers. These were once my babies and now are unique creatures who often resemble fragrant, helpful allies and other days pose as smelly, ungrateful strangers.
Like dependent joeys, they once hovered around me for transportation, food and internet passwords. Now some of them drive cars, buy their own chips and stop whispering when I walk into a room.
“What did you say? Who’s doing what?” I plead like a pitiful toddler. Life has cruelly circled around — I am now the one who craves to be let in on secrets and it is I who must take naps.
One of my teenagers currently displays an unusual, robotic sense of humor — like when he greets me at breakfast by pointing sharply at me and saying:
Target Acquired.
We discussed respect / disrespect today. Sometimes I ask him to complete a chore and he jokingly answers:
Yes, I will not do that.
When I was finished with my mini respect lecture, he offered me a rigid handshake, peered at me with a robotic stare and stated in a monotone:
Thank you for your candor.
Minutes later, he offered me another stiff hand and droned:
Congratulations. You have been reinstated as our mother for another five years.
We had some other options, but this worked for us right now.
After eating the lunch I prepared for him, he approached me again with:
Congratulations. Your term as mother has now been extended for the next TEN years.
My Word Soup 